A short talk with the lady dating a married man

“He is so damn fiiiiiiiiine”, well yeah girl he is but it still doesn’t change the fact that he is NOT YOURS.

A few of my sister -friends have fallen in love with married men, and I must admit I have come across the temptation a number of times, the struggle can get hard out here. There are a couple of reasons for dating a married man, it could be due to:

1.      Simply being a lover of things( yes like you love things lol)

2.       You have so called “daddy issues”, due to an absent father- figure in your life and you find yourself attracted to older men.

3.      He was just that loser of a guy who approached you and wasn’t wearing his ring or it was on the right-hand side but you genuinely never noticed it and you fell in love with him without knowing he’s married or

4.      You knew he was married, but fell in love with him ANYWAYS, because I mean, he was just so good looking, he BOUGHT you and your honeys drinks the first time you met him, he took you shopping, spoilt you rotten, said the right words at the right time, he smelt so  good and he cared so much.

Of course he will because another woman has been behind him to make sure he is the best man he can be, he understands women inside and out because he has become one with a woman who unfortunately happens to be his wife. You will be simply reaping the benefits of another woman. In a nutshell he is a complete man because of another woman. God designed marriage so that one helps to complete the other. Now you have become part of that “sIn” because of the “I”, selfish enough to be the reason for breaking up that home, I would criticize the man right now, but this is a letter to the mistresses. Do you know what a divorce can do to a family? Yet alone to your current or future family?

My friend was telling me about some chick who updated her status and said she is becoming comfortable with being the side chick, and I was like… what!

Some married men may “love” you if that is actually possible. But most of them will ‘hit the road jack’ after receiving the cookie from the cookie jar, and of course the obvious will happen, you are left dirty, used, betrayed and miserable because he played you, and ironically he is probably at the school netball benches cheering on his daughter, yet he has hurt someone else’s daughter and at the same time holding his wife’s hand and smiling at her yet couldn't hold yours in public. You see, it was never worth it.

As long as he won’t leave his Mrs for you, stay away because he knows where his heart, loyalty and stability lies, and even if he did he will probably do the same to you years down the line. Be spontaneous and love but just be wise about it. Let your man be yours, even though sometimes you will share him with other women, because sometimes men don’t know how to behave, and it is not okay. Just love yourself enough not to be that girl who is crying over a married man. That woman who was there before you will be there after you, trust me, so pick yourself up, build yourself and let your king find you because you might miss him whilst playing around with a taken one.